Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her to make her holy, cleansing her by the washing with water through the word, and to present her to himself as a radiant church, without stain or wrinkle or any other blemish, but holy and blameless.
The Lord clearly set a very high standard for husbands and the marriage relationship. Husbands are supposed to love and look after the well being of their wife in the same heart and mindset as Christ looks after the well being of the church: exhibit unconditional love, compassion, faithfulness, and longsuffering. He is even to cover his wife with the Word and present her to the Father.
I’m not sure we truly grasp how high the Lord has placed married love. People move in and out of relationships so quickly that we don’t give ourselves a chance to truly understand what it means. Today mindset is, ‘what can marriage offer me that co-habitation can’t offer.’ The crazy thing is this mindset used to be common among young people, but now it’s also middle age and seniors. Co-habitation has limited benefits and it’s not God’s best.
That’s why premarital counseling is so important. Marriage is a spiritual, emotional, and physical relationship. It meets man’s physical and emotional need for companionship; Genesis 2:18 says it is not good that man to be alone. It meets the social need for child bearing and continuing the race. And it provides for man and woman to fulfill normal desires given them by God (I Corinthians 7:1-3).
Lord thank you for loving us. No matter how difficult, help us to reassess our view of marriage and elevate it to the position you have ordained with man at the head leading the relationship both spiritually and physically. Please continue to show us how to be the partner the other needs and help us to make the sacrifices necessary to ensure the success of our relationship. In Jesus name I pray, amen.